“When people tell me to put baby down to sleep,” she wrote. “Carrying them all day to sleep won’t spoil your baby. All they want is to know we’re near and they’re safe. Nine months in, nine months on.

The title of this blog post could be put another way: “Because I said, ‘Stop crying’ to my son when I was raising him, did I ruin his life?” I have been asked questions like this for more than thirty ...